So, although I haven't been blogging much I have been reading my Xanga subscriptions all along. A while back I decided to subscribe to Lovelyish, and while generally I just enjoy the makeup and fashion stuff, I am also often actually appalled at some of the other issues written about. Rarely it's the entry itself--it's all the hatred that gets spewn out after.

Do women *really* hate women who have 5 extra pounds on them *that* much? Or even very, very fat women? Mildly chubby ones? Majorly athletic and therefore "bulky" ones? Is anyone who is not skinny obese? Really? And do those women really hate skinny women? Is all this real, REALLY? And is being non-skinny always down to being lazy and undisciplined (having had some major issues with my thyroid which went undiagnosed for way too long in my early 20's I can confidently say NO, it is not always down to being a sad lazy person; and as well,  being built the way I am, I can honestly say that even when I weighed 106 pounds I was not skinny...)? Is being skinny always only down to great discipline? Can we all grow up?

And what is with the liberal use of the phrases "she is gross" and "I hate people like her" all over the place? Is that not just a tad harsh? Is someone really gross because they are a goth or they shave their head or they dress in any way oddly or they have any bit of fat on them? Should we really all conform?

I don't know. It's just...it makes me sad. I don't care if people don't like the way I dress, but I don't think saying it's gross or slutty (another favorite term thrown at anyone who doesn't conform, no matter what they're wearing) or that they *hate* me is called for. I don't think people are gross because they are skinny or gargantuan or normal or whatever. I certainly don't hate them. There was an entry about being busty a few weeks back...in which one reply told all the busty girls that they were gross and skanky and shouldn't leave the house without lots of clothing--and hopefully a turtleneck--on because otherwise they would fall out off their tops and everyone knows that big breasts are just disgusting.

So--what is it? Perhaps a lot of the people who bother to reply are really immature? Certainly that seems to be a hazard at lots of message boards and the like. Do they not realize that people on the internet are still people with feelings--would they say the same things to someone's face, or do they just feel safe because they're typing something to a nameless someone else? I don't honestly believe that the majority of women really hate other women that much, or that everyone thinks we should conform. Or at least I hope it's not like that!

So, now I need to decide whether I want to keep reading the Lovelyish stuff or of I just spare myself the parts that make me angry (will I really miss the stuff I like that much?).

Does anyone else here follow Lovelyish, btw?

Oh, wow, it's xanga day...I have no idea what to write about. I have just felt really scattered lately and I don't seem able to concentrate on anything! So I guess I'll just hope I feel more interesting next week...